如果你真的很爱一个人


有时候你爱的人难免会让你受气,

你可能会很气很气,但无论如何,不要去争输赢、争面子,要记得,

不要让自己成为一个后悔的人,宁可让一步。

如果你能够原谅他,那么就原谅他,哪怕自己情感也很受伤。

如果你不能原谅他,那么就同情他,因为他也一样心痛难受。

如果你不能同情他,那么就祝福他,希望他的低潮快快过去。

如果你不能祝福他,那么就帮助他,让他知道你总是关心他。

如果你不能帮助他,那么就走开吧,时间会让这不愉快过去。

只因为你内心深处明白,爱他。。是值得的。

你并没有很大的损失,只是让了小小的一步,却能够维系真情。


共存 Codependant 反依赖 Counterdependant

独立 Independent 共生 Interdependant


有一位心理学家曾分析,一段成熟称得上真爱的恋情必须经过这四个阶段。

阶段之间转换所需的时间不一定,因人而异。

第一阶段: 共存。这是热恋时期,情人无时无刻总希望能够在一起。

第二阶段: 反依赖。等到情感稳定后,至少会有一方想要有多一点自己的时间做自己的事,这时候另一方会感到冷落。

第三阶段: 独立。这是第二段的延续,要求更多独立自主的时间。

第四阶段: 共生。这时新的相处之道已经形成,你们已经成为最亲的人。你们在一起相互扶持,一起开创属于你们自己的人生。你们在一起不会互相牵绊,而会互相成长。


但是大部分的人都通不过第二及第三阶段,而选择分手一途,这是非常可惜的。

很多事只要好好沟通都会没事的,不要耍个性,不要想太多,要互相信任,这样第二、第三阶段的时间就会缩短。

和所爱的人相遇相恋非常不容易,不要轻言放弃。

两人相聚是因为有缘,相知是真心,真的得好好珍惜这份缘分。

莫说分手不时无由,希望看到上述的四个阶段,真的能给大家一些启示。


Found this meaningful short essay and would like to share this with my buddies. Read it and understand the meaning hidden inside. =)


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♥ Bangkok, Just Lurve it

I'm HOME ~!!! Yoo Hooo....!!

Just over my 5D4N Bangkok Trip and it was very fun indeed..!!

Well, it’s within my expectation… I SHOP LIKE CRAZY. xD

*From this à at last I left these* Oh my God !

This month PK laaa….. =’(


4th July

We were heading to LCCT and the boarding time was at 10.50am… So, we choose to sat down at Mc Donald and having some drinks. Everyone is bewaring of the AH1N1 virus, so do us. Therefore, the mask is a must to wear for hygiene purpose. Let’s see our yok ji face after wearing mask. Hoho ~


*On board of Plane*

After 2 hours flight, we’re REACH..!! We had chosen CHINA TOWN as our 1st place to visit and we’re trying to find something to fill up the empty stomach. Okay, we are going to have seafood as our lunch!

*DEAD fish, it taste sux*

*DEAD Prawn X.X*

*Tong Yum Soup….Acceptable larr...*

After lunch session, we gotta move our ass to visit SAMPENG market. There was just a small street and it’s a wholesale market. Later than, our personal driver took us to watch Tiger Show, kind of famously place to go at night. ERhM…. I considered it as…Disgusting.

Huu…. Our 1st day… Just biar like that…

TO BE CONTINUE *


5th July

A fresh brand new day ~!!

Places to visit today : CHATUCHAK, PLATINUM FASHION MALL, SUAM LUM NIGHT BAZAAR


What can I say is…. It’s TIRING and EXHAUSTING!! Tiredness overcame me =’( Nonstop walking and walking… shopping and running (As my friend said, I always run away when seeing nice clothes until my friends can’t find me HAHA xD)

*Dinner at Japanese Restaurant*

*Not forget to take picture =)*

2nd day…. End up with Thai massage *Superb!!* Strain strain strain ~ it


6th July

Woke up early in the morning. FLOATING MARKET here we go !!

Joined the half day tour and all the way to floating market it takes about 1 hour. Sitting in the small van and it’s time to start being cam whore.

Chak Chak ~! Lolz


Rented a small boat and started to float ~ haha



After this, we’ve been the famous shopping centre SIAM PARAGON,SIAM DISCOVERY, SIAM CENTRE, MBK to have a look. No doubt, their shopping centre looks nice and IN! A lot of special stuffs that we can’t find in Malaysia.



Night – Heading to the club named Hollywood ~ The MAN’S heaven.




Lots of pretty Thai girls shake their body sexily and there’s some dancer and singer on the stage. It’s just like a presentation and it’s totally different with Malaysia’s night clubs ~


7th July

Day 4, the place to visit today : GRAND PALACE, KHAO SAN ROAD

Nice building! A must to visit when you in BKK. I tried to blend into their culture =P

Let’s see the pictures. Here we go





Gorgeous right? Yea it is !


8th July

Day 5…. It’s time to back home. =’(




Last pic before I leave (with the heavy bag full of new clothes)

And the last smile ^^

In the plane

Goodbye BKK…..


I WILL BE BACK !! =P


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Let's BE the shopaholic !!

It’s a FREE Friday ~!!

I was so excited !!! Be frankly, I was not in mood to work now. It’s all flying out of Msia... xD

Gotta get myself prepared and fly to my 1st travel country BKK tomorrow… Yea no doubt, this is my first trip!! Oh my God…. Can you imagine how happy am I cos finally I can shop around crazily…!! *This is the main point* Hoho…

Being stuck in relationship problems few weeks ago… And now, finally I decided what to do and which to go. I found HIM. And I had chosen HIM. Hopefully we will stay longer that what I expected. I do not hope the same troubles come back again… Hopefully ler….

Will be back on 8th July… Can’t meet up with my dearest one about 1 week. Haihz…I will miss u Honey…. Wait me back !!! Hoho =P


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